Thursday 19 September 2013

Learn to Educate

When one thinks of Education & Learning, sometimes one can see the wide grey area in between the two. The gap through which many a minds could fall through for want of better guidance. My little one, a bright girl with mischief in her eyes is all and more than I could have asked for. Her attitude towards learning was amazing and she grasped all the newness around her eagerly. Her interest in the alphabet, in numbers, in books, in Computers & TV was a treat to observe. I use the past tense because the minute conventional schooling began, this slowly started waning. It was sad to see the decline in her seeking spirit and to see her total dis-interest in the learning process.

It came to a point where she was put in special classes to catch up with her class and was still unable to. Seeing her struggle made me realise that i had not been a dumb brain in school. I too had probably had learning problems like my little one. The time had come for us as parents to take the pressure of performance off our child and help her start learning again,  Since we both are from conventional educational backgrounds and firmly based in India, choosing an International School is nothing short of radical. Here, we bid good-bye to the traditional learning methods based on grade specific textbooks and rely on syllabus designed keeping the age of the child in mind. For us it was a leap of faith which we are not regretting at all!

Candor International School, Bangalore is everything and more than we expected. The very first visit is comforting and personal. Its obvious that the School is not about the Syllabus, or the Campus, or the Principal, or Mahesh Bhupati's Tennis Academy. The School is all about the Students, the most important subject in this institution! Everything from the Menu to the Music room to the Science Laboratories at Candor are designed keeping the students in mind. The School believes in giving the required freedom within boundaries and to help the child soar when the occasion calls for it. The mode of discipline is not punishment but knowing the consequence of one's action. On a personal level, this is in line with my belief in the Buddhist principle of "Cause and Effect". I think the only way to get a child to learn is to involve the child in the learning process and that is what the school has grasped. So, if the child is having difficulty catching up, she's given as much help as she needs to learn concepts. So, also on the other hand if the child is ahead of class and needs to be challenged, they have an honours program where they nominate children to attempt the next level of studies!

There are changes in my daughter, changes which surprise us and the people who know her. Positive changes that have only been encouraged and nurtured by the school. Her previous school hugely helped us by identifying the problem we had at hand. Candor is on its way to empowering her to work with the talent she has. As she loves engaging with people, her logical thinking skills are being honed slowly but surely. Case in point:

Student: Mom! Today teacher asked me what my hobbies are!
Mom: Oh wow baby that's great! So what did you say?
Student: Maa...I didn't know what to say because nobody in any school ever asked me about my hobbies! I just told teacher I love Tennis. I wanted to tell more things but was feeling shy.

Having spent the next few days in an encouraging environment, the student thought about it and told the teacher ten hobbies! This was in the first few days. Once the homeroom discussions started and various interesting topics were introduced in class, our little student became confident enough to discuss things she wouldn't have thought of earlier:

Student: Papa! Do you believe in going to the temple to pray to God?
Papa: I believe that if I do my job well and treat people with respect, "He" will bless me.
Student: Papa, you can't say "He" because I think God has no gender!

Both Mom and Dad almost fell off their respective chairs! Three cheers to Candor and a Big Thanks for giving our confident, inquisitive, seeking, enthusiastic child back to us! As a parent, I want to participate in this process of learning. It would be my pleasure to be a part of School and help write so many success stories that are in the making! 

Will I ever put undue pressure on my child to perform? Never! Is it possible to lead a change in education by example? Maybe. Would I continue choosing learning over education? Most definitely Yes!      
                  

Home away from home...

Ages ago, my mother made a wall hanging which said, "Home is where the heart is". My father was in the Air Force and we moved every 3-4 years to a new place. New cities, new homes, new neighbours, new friends, new experiences. What fun! As soon as we settled in and unpacked, this wall hanging would get pride of place on mom's favourite wall! Amidst all the hustle-bustle and new-ness, this would somehow be the continuity in my life. I remember embracing each place with so much joy and still carry happy memories of most cities I have lived in and most people I have lived with. Getting steeped in local culture while maintaining your individuality is 1 big lesson moving taught me and has held me in good stead.

When you move to new places often, there is no chance you will grow up with a closed mind. You learn to adapt and adjust and broaden your vision. You learn to accept, to grow a little more, to be patient with a new school/new system/new culture, to be sensitive, to not take random things too personally and basically find your own space under the sun wherever you go.  

I loved moving then and I love moving now. The whole experience of going anywhere and making a "home" is for me very satisfying. Looking for the right apartment which meets with the approval of each of us (and trust me our approval is not easy to get!), moving all your stuff into the right corners, adding new stuff to your already overcrowded "new" home, joining a new workplace, getting to know the neighbourhood market, organizing School for the little one and the most enriching experience for me-meeting people! Over the years I have realised that even though the place matters, its the people who make up your experience/impression about any place. The warm nature of Indians everywhere makes you feel at home in any corner of the country and you start feeling the "Oneness of self and environment" (a beautiful Buddhist concept) immediately. The rich diversity in our country ensures there's never a dull moment when you move...there's so much to see, discover, like, love and embrace!

I have a lot of respect for people who put down their roots in one place and are content with their lives unfolding around them, but there is something to be said about moving periodically and experiencing life in different places and paces. I know for a fact that its a different high when you discover exotic places on your business/holiday travel, but staying in a new place till it becomes old and comfortable...sigh!

Will I willingly stop being a gypsy? Never! Can I try my hand at leading a more settled life? Maybe. Will I always embrace the next move, however difficult or badly timed it is? Most definitely Yes!!